To share information about sociopathy and sociopathic behavior in everyday life. “It’s as though there’s a dangerous fish in all the waters of the world, that is never mentioned” — not if I can help it. The psychology, law enforcement, therapy, marital counseling and adoption communities have been grotesquely irresponsible in their public silence on a subject that they are well aware of. I seek to counter that.
Welcome to The Path Whisperer [copied from my Welcome post] . I’ll be seeking stories of possible sociopathy (focusing on sociopathic behavior and thinking patterns) in daily news and current events. Our popular culture is already soaked in sociopathy. The only thing missing is recognition. The only joke in Borat was that he wasn’t joking. There are movies made for adults based on bodily functions. Parents can’t understand their teens’ wildings — sociopathic teens, feeling no need for restraint, have raised the bar, and teens being teens strive to outdo their peers. Sociopathic cruise passengers have figured out they can commit crimes with impunity since the cruiselines won’t want the publicity of an investigation and prosecution (a sociopath’s dream) – sociopathic cruiseline employees have known this and pushed the crime envelope for years. Sociopathic teen criminals will often videotape their cruel exploits (sociopaths are essentially non self-referential, they need a mirror and comments from others). Millions of parents wonder why a child behaves the way he or she does — they have been lied to about the true cause of their children’s behavior. No one tells adoptive parents of the risk of a sociopathic child (the progeny of unhappy seductions by sociopaths are often put up for adoption). The phenomenon of sociopathy is everywhere but the recognition of it is not. I truly believe the world is anxious for this discussion.
Without going into them here, I will also be touching on related matters: the relationship between sociopaths and incest; sociopaths and the rigidly narcissistic and/or the corrupt; and sociopaths and the phenomenon of the evil couple.
There is also a subcategory of sociopaths, in my opinion, termed pseudologues — pathological and fantastical liars who actually believe what they say, seemingly unaware that there is a real reality out there, confusing reality with the verbal claim of reality. Geniuses at gathering sympathy they often claim a deadly illness miraculously recovered from or lived with. Traveling to the Holy Lands they claim divinity (Jerusalem Syndrome). Seemingly not very common, they do appear in the news from time to time
Finally, two additional points of interest, first, in our economy corporations are essentially given sociopathic freedoms. Not surprisingly sociopaths often then climb to the top. Second, I believe this country could use a political movement that excludes the pathologies of the right (a sociopathic lack of generosity and empathy) and the left (a self-congratulatory rigid narcissisism capable of creating a welfare system that rewards the breakup of the family).
Again welcome. I hope you find this of interest. I try not to hold my opinions dogmatically and see this as a journey towards the truth — thus the photo in the header. Hopefully some of you will wish to add your own comments.
[on edit] It seems I should add what I claim to be my alternate credentials for claiming insight into sociopathy (as opposed to the traditional credentials of higher degrees, specific jobs, etc.). There are really three. First, I believe I have a very intimate knowledge of sociopaths and their thinking patterns. I have always gotten along with sociopaths very easily. Back in elementary school slightly odd classmates (who I now recognize as being sociopathic) I hardly knew would make my acquaintance, telling me things and asking me questions, as though I might have some insight into their experiences. To this day sociopaths continue to do this.
Second, my father’s career was in mental health (this career took him to a state commissionership of mental health). I would say that I grew up with the idea of an almost infinite complexity of the psychological universe.
Third, among other things, I am a professionally trained actor — I studied around 5 years with Bill Hickey and around 3 years with Sandy Dennis. We were taught to respond spontaneously to our instant reading of the emotional vibes of an acting situation (the theatrical buzzword was “organically” as I recall). Much to my surprise this gave me one foot in the world of sociopaths. Sociopaths simply use words for strategic reasons, as a life tool — meanings are another thing entirely. The truth is read behind the words themselves.
In terms of my educational background I have a B.A. in Anthropology from Columbia. While I don’t think this gave me insight into sociopaths specifically it did give me a non-judgmental ‘people are what they are and do what they do’ approach. Sociopaths fall into the ‘just are’ category of life.
I’m not sure the above will carry weight with anyone else, but I do believe these factors have helped give me insight into sociopathy.
Finally, I am obviously an adherent of the idea that one learns best what one teaches oneself. I offer these posts in the hope that they will help make sense of the reader’s experience and world. My target audience are those curious or already knowledgeable about sociopaths, those trying to come to grips with interactions with sociopaths, or those who may be totally at a loss to understand what has happened to them but have stumbled onto the site. To the casual visitor who may not believe in the possibility of sociopaths in their personal sphere I hope, at the very least, you’ll decide to keep in mind what I have to say just in case the knowledge turns out to be useful someday.